Is your perfect marriage no longer that perfect anymore? Your fairy-like tale broken and you don’t believe in happily ever after. Divorce has never been in your vocabulary until recently.  Do you feel as if you and your spouse are slowing drifting apart, both of you seldom talk now and worse till it has evolve into an abuse.

As before every marriage woe, there’s a cause or rather a warning. It’s as if an open wound left untreated over a period will slowly become fatal.

But before you give up hope or try to believe that everything is going to be fine after awhile, why not find out the reasons which might cause your marriage to become sour so you can save your marriage before it’s too late.

Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut afterwards.”

Let us now explore some of the tell tale indicators before the storm approaches.

1. You started to cheat and sexually involved with another person.
   Cheating on your spouse by sexually involved with another person is no doubt one of the top sign of a troubled marriage. Infidelity is one of the greatest sin in marriage.
2. You have stopped talking to each other.
   You’re so tired of hearing your spouse voice and you don’t even want talk to each other. Without communication, the marriage is bound to head to failure.
3. You have stopped fighting.
   Both of you don’t seems to fight anymore. What you did in the past that will stir him/her up no longer matter to them anymore. When they stop doing so, it means they’ve given up. Sometime, fighting means that strong emotions are still present and even though it’s in a negative way, it still bring out enough emotion in both parties to get them to react or respond.
4. You avoid or do not want to see your spouse.
   You wanted to go back home late, try to find all kind of excuse and means to avoid any confrontation with your spouse. You begin to feel suffocated and you just want to get out, worse still you are afraid of your spouse. Then there’s obviously trouble in your marriage.
5. There’s no longer any intimacy, sex or affection.
   Whether it’s the sexual intimacy or the little special kind of intimacy, but if they are all missing from the marriage, it shown that both of you does not have the love anymore. When both of you just don’t care anymore and stop doing little things that make you husband and wife, then this signals that something is wrong in the marriage and need to be fine-tuned.
6. You argue day in and day out.
   Constant ongoing conflict is one of the signs your marriage is in trouble. When a couple feel that their relationship is amplifying out of control, it can lead to resentment and fear. If you find that your spouse and you can’t agree on even the slightest of things and argue on every single meaningless thing, you need to re-examine the future of the marriage.
7. You started to hide things from her and keep secrets.
   Not sharing details with one another is another of the signs your marriage is in red light. Married couples will want to share everything with each other. They discuss about all the things occurring in their lives, whether they are bad or good. If your spouse or you can’t trust each other and don’t talk about work, children or feelings, that’s a very bad sign.
8. You started to develop emotional, verbal, or physical abuse on your spouse.
   If your spouse seems to be verbally or emotionally attacking you it’s likely they’re lashing out because they feel helpless about the deterioration of the marriage. But when you have come to stage of resorting to domestic violence, it probably signals that your marriage is over. When you physical abuse your spouse, it will left a scar that may be forgiven but never will be forgotten.

Does any of the above marriage woes indicators showing up in your marriage? Early detection is always better rather than denial of a problem. Right now, why not start working to save your marriage!