So it is! Year 2009, an new exciting yet uncertain year, well first of all, my heartfelt wishes to all readers, lovers and wonderful people out there. A brand New Year, but still the same old me. Lovebirds-Open Source Dating Ideas will always strive to improve and meet up with the challenges ahead. So I continue seek the continuing kind support of Lovebirders, and if you have not supported me yet, you should really do so by first subscribing to my LOVE feeds.

It’s not always a bed of roses for me in the New Year. As much as I hate to start a brand new year with a minor quarrel with a woman, it’s inevitable as sometimes she just can’t communicate clear enough.  So let’s me spare your woes and provide you with an insight of why women can’t communicate clearly.

You always tend to get a straight answer from a man – but never from a woman. Most man are able to apply common senses better, exchange information rationally in a express and efficient manner but yet we’re still being condemn by women that “men can’t communicate” with a good deal of their scorn and attitude. Perhaps when you peel into the surface of the book, it turns out that when women say, “Men can’t communicate,” what they really mean is,”We can’t communicate the way they communicate with each other.”

So let’s look at these guiding principle women uses and what we can do to make some sense of it at all.

She Really Doesn’t Mean What She Says
A woman will beat around the bush and talk all around a subject, and may drop hints but she expects the men to decode what she wants or needs and sometime even hope you were a psychic. Being indirect is a way of life to woman. She loves to talk and let men play the guessing games rather than come straight to the point.

Here are some reality:
When she says, “It’s up to you,” what she really means is, “Give me what I really want and I want it now.”

When she says, “Go ahead, do what you want, it’s fine with me,” she really means, “it’s not fine with me and I don’t want you to, I’m going to make you pay for this later.”

When she says, “As long as he is a nice guy, it’s alright to be with him.” what she really means is, “He must’ve lots of money and a status job so my girlfriends will be jealous of me.”

Emotions Thinking Of Women
Logic basically is non-existent in the female thought. Women are driven by hormones and their self feelings. This explained why often their behaviour is so erratic, moody and irrational.

Women even have the annoying ability to think in two directions at once each absolutely opposed to the other. They will often say one thing but actually do the complete opposite, or take meaning entirely out of context and jump into emotion-based conclusions. Sometime reading too deep into a normal comment could be a frustrating thing. For example, if a man tells a woman that “She is beautiful today,” she will retaliate with, “You mean I’m not beautiful on the other days?”

No Action, Talk Only
Women won’t take action, actually they hates taking action. So instead they will talk and think that any problem can be solved just simply by talking about it. They actually rely on men to actually get thing accomplished and pushed the decision making to men. Women just tend to give up, cry or complain, constantly seeking advice from everyone to help them when they’re in need yet they never really act upon any of the given suggestions. In the end when it comes to decision making, a woman will often turn to a man. But if the man chooses the wrong decision, e.g. like selecting an option that isn’t what she really wants, she will mope, blame and punish him for not knowing her true desires without ever telling why.

Read Her- Be Rewarded, Can’t Read Her- Be Punished
Sometime it’s take more that a psychic to read a woman. Women will tell you that a man is expected to “know” what she triggers her sexually, where she wants to go, what she wants to do. All these without actually her ever conveying any direct information to him. If he doesn’t, this means that he doesn’t really care about her.

Take my scenario for reference.
I went to a restaurant together with my girl and a bunch of friends for a dinner. At the end of it, I proceed to pick up the dinner checks for all of us. After which, I go on for a date with my girl. While on the way home, she’s sitting in an uneasy silence, sullen pouting and refused to talk to me. Sensing sometime is wrong; I asked her what’s wrong. She put on more killer silence. I try again and told her that something must be wrong to make her react in such manner. She ignored me. At the end of the day, she finally broke her silence and told me that we’re not able to go on a honeymoon trip.

It turns out that my girl had been counting far into the future, too far I thought. She has predicted that my generosity would eventually result in the depletion of our honeymoon funds. And I was supposed to ‘know’ this by reading her mind and there she is punishing me with all the pointless drama just because I can’t read her!

Conclusion
Indeed the differences in communication styles are inserted into our male and female brain by nature and we do communicate differently with them.The problem is that women constantly blame men for thinking like men and not able to understand them. They criticize our gender for not being able to express emotions and failed to adapt to the style of female communication.

But the fact is men aren’t supposed to be women. They’re not supposed to act like women or think like women. Men can communicate and we do it quite clearly. But to our male point of view, it’s the women who can’t communicate. In order to meet on a mutual ground of understanding, women have to stop expecting men to communicate like women and learn to comprehend and accept the intrinsic differences in our communication styles. So ladies, please listen up!